True life story. Humiliated and rejected I will never go back to Daniel.

            For the umpteenth time, Jodie went on bended knees appealing to Daniel’s emotional senses to rescind on his decision to end their relationship especially now she was carrying his child and she was already here months gone. Daniel remained adamant. He wanted to end the relationship but he wasn’t given any cogent reason for wanting an abrupt end to a relationship of seven years. Both families were also into each other, expecting and hoping that when they eventually become in-laws, it will be an easy and natural progression but it didn’t look like I will happen. They also pleaded on behalf of Jodie for Daniel to rescind on his decision to end to end a supposed wonderful relationship they all naturally assumed it was altar bound. But Daniel would listen to none of their pleadings. in fact she  had warned Jodie that if she failed to terminate the pregnancy she wants to use to get him tied to her, then she would end up feeling very sorry as she was going to end up bearing the cross all by herself

        But to terminate the pregnancy was the last thing on Jodie’s wanted to do, she had done so for him in the past, five good times and she was scared of going through another ordeal. She wanted to keep this one badly like her life depended on it but not without the wedlock with Daniel.  So where then was he sudden turn of attitude coming from? They quarreled like any other normal couple would but they made it a point of duty not to sleep with any grudge in mind but to always settle and make up. There were so into each other any tome she took in Daniel would always convince Jodie took to get rid of it because according to him, they were both not prepared to raise a child, especially outside wedlock. Jodie out of love even though she hated to grant him his wishes, terminated each pregnancy that came.

     Money wasn’t a hindrance to their becoming man and wife. Daniel earned a descent living as a banker with one of the new generation banks. Jodie earned a meager income as a pharmaceutical sales representative. Most others got married on incomes that were much less than theirs combined together and they still live happily together as couple, so Jodie couldn’t fathom what the problem was. But she persevered because she loved Daniel dearly. But the more she pleaded, the more irritated Daniel got and one day without prior notice Daniel left town and relocated abroad. Jodie was inconsolable, she thought of taking her own life but for the quick intervention of her family members the consequences of Daniel’s actions would have been disastrous. Daniels’ action depicted that he had it all planned, dumping her and relocating abroad. What she couldn’t tell if it was for greener pastures abroad or because of another woman.

            With time Jodie picked up the pieces of her life and nurtured her pregnancy to reality .she put to bed who was a bouncing baby boy who was a splitting image of Daniel. It was with mixed feelings she welcomed Jackson. She was glad she had something to remind him of Daniel and the good times they shared together but at the same time the baby reminded her of Daniel’s betrayal .she cautioned herself against ending up hating the innocent boy who was oblivious of the circumstances surrounding his birth., meanwhile Daniels relocation was as a result of another woman who was ten years older than him and who promised him a better life in America if only he was ready to marry her. Greedily he obliged and without the knowledge of his friends and family members, they did a quick registry before heading of to Atlanta .While his new wife took in but in the second trimester of the pregnancy, they lost the baby .Doctors alluded it a fact that she was getting close to menopause.

                 After several trials they decided to try the artificial insemination process it didn’t yield any expected result frustration began to set in from both ‘lovebirds’ but they both managed to put a rein on it. Finally she broached adoption and this set an alarm in Daniel’s head adoption at this age when he is ill virile and can father a child? He vehemently refused and asked her to start taking fertility treatment but by now a wit end she totally refused to saying she was going to adopt with or without her consent. Well this set of series of quarrels with the woman threatening to have him deported and penniless too. After enduring all the humiliation she was putting him through, he suddenly snapped and beat the living day light out of her which of course got him to jail for six months after which she made good of her promise. He was deported penniless with only a hand luggage after spending five years in America.

             Overwhelmed with shame and unable to summon up courage to get in touch with his relatives. He opted to stay with an old friend in a ramshackle apartment, until he was well able to find his feet.

      On one of his days he went job hunting he walked into a consulting firm and was able to stumble on an interview session for would be applicants. He soon got to be called upon and when he came face to face with the interview panel, he was shocked to see Jodie on the other side of the divide. Need I need to say he performed woefully as he was too shocked to utter any response to all the questions thrown at him? As he walked out Jodie excused from the panel and went after him. Unable to explain what happened in all of the five year he was away he sat on the floor and wept his heart out. Jodie managed to calm him down and urged him to pour his mind out which he did. Surprisingly she wasn’t bitter with him, she equally told him about his child whom he rejected and who was now five years old. He was glad at least he had a child with what he went through in America. But his joy was cut short when Jodie told him as long as she lives she would never set eyes on he would never his eyes on the child he never wanted.

       Tried as much as he did he couldn’t get Jodie to have a change of heart, not even when he pleaded for forgiveness for all of his wrong doings, asking to have Jodie back in his life. Jodie felt it was the height of insult to ask to have her back and the child he hounded her to get read off. But Daniel isn’t given up; in fact he has set machineries in place to reclaim his rightful position in the lives of Jodie and his son Jackson. 

Shhh, my wife is sleeping.

It happened on board on international flight, a man was flying abroad with his wife on vacation. It was time for refreshment, so an air hostess pulled up their trolley to where the couple was seated .just about she was about to take their order, the male passenger quickly whispered her ‘my wife is sleeping’ he said to the air hostess. Can anyone beat that? How many men in this day and age will pamper their wives that much? How many men will be that considerate? It is rare. The striking thing about the couple was that the hubby was much older than the wife. But I know in my heart that there are some men that fell into those categories. Older men yes, I mean older men. That wives.

  They are more caring; more attentive. These men pamper their wives more; reason is because their wives more; reason is because their wives, to them continues to be ever-young before their eyes. Don’t forget beauty they say is in the eyes of the beholder.

  I have observed generally; I stand to be corrected though, most women feel safe in the hands of husbands that are older than them. The gap could be two years or more. Generally; speaking, the average woman craves security.

  According to research findings; younger women often enjoy the company of older men for a variety of reasons. A very common that many women turn to older men is that these men are more mature faster than the men of their age.

  Women do not want to date a man who would rather play computer games than spend time with her. This is not the problem with older men. They have their eyes for their women only; that is, when they are not too engrossed with their job. They hold doors open for their women. She is considered the jewel of her life .So would you blame any woman for wanting them?

  Apart fro m showering their wives with endless attention men who are more mature tends to be more confident as they know themselves better, which is something that attracts younger women. Older men are better at listening to the needs of a younger woman, woman, according to some women, older men often view pleasure in a different light than younger men and their more concerned with the woman’s pleasure as opposed to their own this makes them very appealing to younger women.

Older men tend to be more steadfast and stable and are generally more established and settled in their chosen career than younger men. The security that comes from been financially viable and well established tend to draw younger women to their older husbands

  An older man is no longer in college or struggling away at a low paying job but is secured and generally doing well at his profession ideally.

  Women adore the chivalry that older men often show and they love the fact that older men have more respect for them and they are more polite and have manners. Women like women who know how to be men. In today’s society, many young people are delaying growing. Some men want to be young permanently.

  Most women want to be with men who are responsible and can stand on their own to feed and are able to support themselves take care of them without their mothers help.

These are the most reasons why most women prefer to marry older women. This is not to say this is not to say younger men are out of the question.

  I feel it is also a thing of the mind. There are younger men that are mature in mind.

  There is no doubt that younger that the younger woman makes her partner feel younger.

If both partners really love each other they develop ways to please each other.

  In doing so they have to trust each other and share their problems and share their sexual desires openly.

  Older men need to understand they cannot maintain the same fast and furious pace as they did in their twenties, their life experience should be more than make up for the physical love making. Older men usually have more control over the physical control over the physical and mental state of their being and a much greater knowledge of what elicits pleasure for a woman.

  Like I said love is where you find it in either a younger or an older man, then so be it.  

                

SO WHAT IF HE’S SINGLE?

  It is one thing for a man to be single and for another thing to eligible for marriage.

  The fact that a guy is single doesn’t make an eligible bachelor. Have you ever gone into a relationship with a guy and from the word, you start to feel unhappy, unwanted, unloved or even frustrated. Hello the only likely reason you are feeling that way is because the guy in question is not in love with you. simple truth ,but it very difficult for even the most sophisticated of ladies to accept it especially when they are desperate or ready to settle down with a particular guy they fancy ,either because he’s good-looking rich or combines both qualities.

        Its funny how ladies generally, high and low profile, fall over each other for a guy all because he’s single. they spend their hard end money setting up his apartment, wash his clothes cook his meal give him sex in serial order just to win his heart .it’s a serious competition among ladies .you can imagine a situation were a lady knows that the he’s hanging out with and hoping to hoping to end up in marriage with is seeing other ladies apart from her and yet she’s willing to compete for his love. She’s comfortable competing for his love because his single and she believes if she’s unrelenting the guy could eventually become hers.

     These ladies have turn some men to demigods; no wonder a man in his late 30’s and early 40’s who should be desirous of a wife would expect the ladies he wooed to compete for his love among themselves while he contributes nothing himself emotionally, materially and otherwise except to sleep with them and make promises he knows his not capable of fulfilling, it is almost out of fashion for a guy to marry two wives ,in other word after this ladies must have competed for his love, he’s only capable of marrying one of them or  total stranger in some cases, so what happens to rest of them? They end up even feeling more frustrated.

  When it comes to men, you don’t need to kill yourself over him because if he doesn’t love you he wouldn’t notice your attitude, good bad. When a guy is interested in you, when a guy is interested in you that is when he realizes what stuff you are made up of .if you are a truly a wife material, he notice it immediately and starts to nurture your relationship. If your attitude is bad he notices it too and tries to work on you while he tries to work it out with you because he loves you.

     Guys go on flings. That a guy makes a pass at you doesn’t mean he’s ready for a serious relationship. So when you give a guy a chance, you should sometime to evaluate his real intention towards you. The problem with most ladies is that we are too in a hurry to get it over and done with if you are willing to pay the price for the prize, no player of a man would find it easy with you. What is he price you may want to know? The price is ‘time’ .time has a way of revealing a person’s motives. Whether ulterior or genuine. But too many times, but to may times girls rush into a relationship sex follows (which is capable of deluding our judgment) immediately. Along the line when the, when the guy’s ulterior motives, begins to unveil themselves, we are too emotionally involved to handle a strain. So we begin from the word go to put up with excesses hoping we will by our good attitude win his love. For fear of starting another relationship,

      A friend of mine has been in a relationship with a guy for six months now. It was love at first sight, she couldn’t hide her affection for the guy and this perhaps made the guy made a go at her with she automatically grabbed with both hands. I happen to be one of her confidants and I have observed from the time she stated dating this guy till now her dilemma has been is non-committal attitude. the guy has other girlfriends which she is aware of it but she believes she will eventually win his love because of her over flowing affection for him which she has been showing to him by buying him clothes, setting up his apartment and even given him money when he is broke.

        For six months now the relationship has been on because my friend will not let it die a natural death. Even though she doesn’t ever admit, but I know that if she had delayed sex and not immediately given her body, she would have been able to tell her real motive for asking her out. she has confessed to me many times that the only time she feels loved is when they are together and most likely having sex but the moment she leaves him, all she does is complain because he wouldn’t call and even when she call’s him he wouldn’t pick her call most of the times. Recently she got tired and decided not to call or send him text messages; he didn’t call her for close to two weeks she gave him a break. A few days ago she was forced to check up on him at his office, and behold she saw him given the key of his apartment to another lady that had come to see him. I couldn’t but be firm with her on why she should move on with her life. Again all my advice fell on deaf ears, she tried to convince me that he would eventually fall in love with her. And that she’s not afraid of competition. It’s a pity; competing for love a man’s love has now become fashionable.

     I know a lot of ladies will disagree with me; they might say there is nothing wrong in wining a guy’s love, fine! But I don’t think it’s a crime to be showered with love and be treated with respect as a woman the choice is yours anyway.

      Who should compete for the other person’s love more, is it a man or a woman? Is their any sense in dating any guy who has other girlfriends only for you to try and win his love? At least so that my friend and the likes can know.    

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How to have a successful marital bliss as a Christian

INSTRUCTIONS

1. The immediate family with their relatives;

  Your families outside of the immediate family aren’t supposed to be decision makers in the family. Keep them on the outer court of the marriage; whether it is your mum, dad, aunties, cousins etc. remember marriage should be strictly guided with the directions that God has given to you .give your non-immediate family limitations on what they can and cannot do, and say .you should love your outside family love just the way God loves them. If you’re outside family need assistance need in anyway, make sure you and your spouse come to agreement before helping. You do want the marriage to succeed when making Godly decision, which are right.

2. Your friends are to be chosen wisely;

    As a married couple in Christ choose friends that are married and are also I Christ Jesus. If you have friends that are married but aren’t in Christ Jesus, you should be spend very little time around them it keeps from been driven away from god’s work and his way of doing things. Limit your marriage to bringing in lots of single Christian friends. Single Christian think and do things totally different from totally married Christians.

3. Your goals and your works should be of the lord;

  You have your goal to hold your marriage together. Work at and do things that will express the love you have for one other, it sustains your marriage like right before you get intimate with one another. 

4. Plan a romantic travel trip

  Add in that extra touch of romance in you marriage by getting away from kids. Every now and then planning a romantic traveling trip helps and allows you to spend quality time with one another. the travel trip should be based on you finances purchasing unexpected gift for one another helps when your spouse is least expected, order a limo and make a special engagement date out at the finest restaurant take the time of your schedule to plan a candle light diner at home, with a bottle of wine of your choice in drink in moderation. Keep in mind the kids should not be present. Upgrade you wedding rings and renew you vows upon certain anniversaries. Remember to always work on doing things together. Setting aside the time you will have spent with child/children, if you have any.

5. Bless your marriage

  Sanctity it, put that extra touch of anointing upon it. Work on building you characters based on love trust, honesty happiness, peace, encouragement, and most of all fearing God. These things keep the marriage bond in a great assurance, of knowing that GOD is in charge. Remember to always pray and study your bible, in order to bring about great success in your marriage. It will guide you through any situation you could be thinking, is difficult for you to conquer. Life has many challenges that are worked out through putting God first! Make it you life to keep God first!