It is one thing for a man to be single and for another thing to eligible for marriage.
The fact that a guy is single doesn’t make an eligible bachelor. Have you ever gone into a relationship with a guy and from the word, you start to feel unhappy, unwanted, unloved or even frustrated. Hello the only likely reason you are feeling that way is because the guy in question is not in love with you. simple truth ,but it very difficult for even the most sophisticated of ladies to accept it especially when they are desperate or ready to settle down with a particular guy they fancy ,either because he’s good-looking rich or combines both qualities.
Its funny how ladies generally, high and low profile, fall over each other for a guy all because he’s single. they spend their hard end money setting up his apartment, wash his clothes cook his meal give him sex in serial order just to win his heart .it’s a serious competition among ladies .you can imagine a situation were a lady knows that the he’s hanging out with and hoping to hoping to end up in marriage with is seeing other ladies apart from her and yet she’s willing to compete for his love. She’s comfortable competing for his love because his single and she believes if she’s unrelenting the guy could eventually become hers.
These ladies have turn some men to demigods; no wonder a man in his late 30’s and early 40’s who should be desirous of a wife would expect the ladies he wooed to compete for his love among themselves while he contributes nothing himself emotionally, materially and otherwise except to sleep with them and make promises he knows his not capable of fulfilling, it is almost out of fashion for a guy to marry two wives ,in other word after this ladies must have competed for his love, he’s only capable of marrying one of them or total stranger in some cases, so what happens to rest of them? They end up even feeling more frustrated.
When it comes to men, you don’t need to kill yourself over him because if he doesn’t love you he wouldn’t notice your attitude, good bad. When a guy is interested in you, when a guy is interested in you that is when he realizes what stuff you are made up of .if you are a truly a wife material, he notice it immediately and starts to nurture your relationship. If your attitude is bad he notices it too and tries to work on you while he tries to work it out with you because he loves you.
Guys go on flings. That a guy makes a pass at you doesn’t mean he’s ready for a serious relationship. So when you give a guy a chance, you should sometime to evaluate his real intention towards you. The problem with most ladies is that we are too in a hurry to get it over and done with if you are willing to pay the price for the prize, no player of a man would find it easy with you. What is he price you may want to know? The price is ‘time’ .time has a way of revealing a person’s motives. Whether ulterior or genuine. But too many times, but to may times girls rush into a relationship sex follows (which is capable of deluding our judgment) immediately. Along the line when the, when the guy’s ulterior motives, begins to unveil themselves, we are too emotionally involved to handle a strain. So we begin from the word go to put up with excesses hoping we will by our good attitude win his love. For fear of starting another relationship,
A friend of mine has been in a relationship with a guy for six months now. It was love at first sight, she couldn’t hide her affection for the guy and this perhaps made the guy made a go at her with she automatically grabbed with both hands. I happen to be one of her confidants and I have observed from the time she stated dating this guy till now her dilemma has been is non-committal attitude. the guy has other girlfriends which she is aware of it but she believes she will eventually win his love because of her over flowing affection for him which she has been showing to him by buying him clothes, setting up his apartment and even given him money when he is broke.
For six months now the relationship has been on because my friend will not let it die a natural death. Even though she doesn’t ever admit, but I know that if she had delayed sex and not immediately given her body, she would have been able to tell her real motive for asking her out. she has confessed to me many times that the only time she feels loved is when they are together and most likely having sex but the moment she leaves him, all she does is complain because he wouldn’t call and even when she call’s him he wouldn’t pick her call most of the times. Recently she got tired and decided not to call or send him text messages; he didn’t call her for close to two weeks she gave him a break. A few days ago she was forced to check up on him at his office, and behold she saw him given the key of his apartment to another lady that had come to see him. I couldn’t but be firm with her on why she should move on with her life. Again all my advice fell on deaf ears, she tried to convince me that he would eventually fall in love with her. And that she’s not afraid of competition. It’s a pity; competing for love a man’s love has now become fashionable.
I know a lot of ladies will disagree with me; they might say there is nothing wrong in wining a guy’s love, fine! But I don’t think it’s a crime to be showered with love and be treated with respect as a woman the choice is yours anyway.
Who should compete for the other person’s love more, is it a man or a woman? Is their any sense in dating any guy who has other girlfriends only for you to try and win his love? At least so that my friend and the likes can know.
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