The circumstances that drive men to infidelity are different from than those that make women unfaithful. Some of the shared emotions by both sexes are: significant damage to the spouse’s self-image, personal confidence, feelings of abandonment, attacks on their sense of belonging, betrayal of trust and rage.
Sharing sexual activity and emotional feelings with someone other than your spouse ultimately reduces sexual desire and activity within the primary relationship, as attention and resources are directed away from the partner. Even when this is accepted on a moral level, it is quite painful on the psychological level. Most married couple will feel intense jealousy if they suspect their lovers might be having additional relationships outside their marriage.
Denial of spousal love makes people feel worthless and rejected and these feelings commonly turn them defenseless and open to infidelity. Although marital unhappiness makes people susceptible to infidelity, this is not always the case, considering the case of many African men who view infidelity as a sport.
Men tend to draw a strong demarcating line between love and sex. Though they love their wives, though they love their wives, they engage in illicit relationships to spice up spice up their lives and simply because they can. basically it’s the it is the cultural and societal upbringing that determines whether adultery is perceived to be wrong or accepted .it is interesting to note that the practice can be a norm in one society and a taboo in another
Men are known to stray more than women in patriarchal households and this is passed down to generations.
After the discovery of an extra-marital affair, your life goes crazy .if you found out about infidelity, you feel like everything you had believed is now false. The person you thought you could count on has betrayed your trust. You are enraged at your spouse and yet disturb by self accusations about what you did wrong (even if it was unjustified) worse case scenario if it’s some you know. You have to save face and behave as if you are not affected, while you might be consumed with fear of losing your home to someone else-an unnatural –an unnatural and impossible position to be in. the fact that in our society when these things happen, particularly with the woman you are expected to just shrug it off, is one of the key recipes to poor health. Those excruciating emotions cannot be willed away: they may be denied suppressed, but they remain a potential for ill health.
People don’t function well with a lot of anxiety, fear shame and guilt. They get sick too much, and may become mentally depressed or physically unwell even though they may not attribute their condition to their activities. People can actually become insane from excessive negative emotional experiences. To prevent these problems Mother Nature has provided us ‘with unconscious defense mechanism’ these mental behaviors neutralize the negative effects of certain amounts of fear, anxiety, shame, guilt and other emotions. Extra-marital produces a long-term dissolution self esteem and potential in one’s loved one.
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